Or how can you say to your brother; Let me remove the speck from your eye and look a plank is in your own eye? first remove the plank from your own eye. Matthew 7:4-5
So before you point out anything, ask yourself if you’ve contributed to the situation. If you have, start by asking forgiveness from God and your mate. Then be aware of the sensitive places in your spouse’s heart. Forgiveness, not harsh cirticism, needs to cushion your discussion. Finally, change doesn’t come easily to any of us, and it make take time. A correction partner also needs to be a patient partner.